About

“Can I see that special oven that’s gonna turn Terry into ash?”

I am deeply curious about death. It started when I was 6 and a classmate was killed in a freak accident. His sudden death provoked horror and fascination in equal measure. When the other kids were asking, “Has Terry gone to Heaven?”, I was asking “Can I see the special oven that’s gonna turn Terry into ash?” No, I could not. Yes, I was that child.

Unsurprisingly, I became that adult and chose a career helping others affected by traumatic loss. I use my skills as a lobbyist to help families campaign for better access to justice after sudden death.

As a result of that work, I’ve met some extraordinary people. They are the professionals who support us in the darkest times; accident investigators, coroner’s officers, memorial photographers, funeral directors, Police Family Liaison Officers, pretty much anyone and everyone who works with the dying and the dead and I want you to meet them…

Will I find the content of the episodes disturbing?

The professionals I interview often work under extremely distressing circumstances. Therefore, our discussions range from the very graphic to the deeply moving. Some episodes are tougher to listen to than others but the content is never gratuitous. However, you should be aware that we discuss suicide, baby loss and go into pretty explicit forensic detail at times.

The trailer below will give you an idea of what to expect.

Editorial Approach

Death professionals rarely consent to being interviewed. This is because they are often misquoted or what they say is sensationalised. For this reason, my interviewees have total editorial control over their episode. I want them to sound like they want to be heard. These are their stories after all, they should own them. This is very important to me.

The logo: why the fern?

Finding the right image to illustrate a podcast about death has been a challenge. Skulls, skeletons, gravestones just felt too disrespectful. So I chose the fern because it is known historically as the plant of sorrow and sincerity. That felt right.